Integrated – The Wholeness of Progress

“A goal that costs your health, relationships, or peace of mind is too expensive — no matter the return.”

Success shouldn't demand that you cut yourself into parts. The third trait of an ALIVE goal is that it is Integrated — it fits within your life, not outside or against it.

🔄 What Does It Mean to Be Integrated?

• Be in harmony, not in conflict
• Pursue a goal that respects your roles, rhythms, and realities
• Build success that doesn’t destroy something else you value

An integrated goal doesn’t force you to choose between your ambition and your authenticity — between progress and peace, or between achievement and connection.

🌱 What Integrated Goals Look Like

• A fitness goal that works with your job, not around it
• A work goal that still lets you be a present parent
• A learning goal that enriches your mind without robbing your sleep
• A business dream that evolves with your energy and doesn’t demand constant hustle

Integrated goals flow with your life season. They include your body, mind, and relationships in the process.

❌ What Misintegrated Goals Feel Like

• “I’m always catching up somewhere — if I win here, I lose there.”
• “I’m successful… but I feel disconnected from myself.”
• “This goal is thriving, but my health (or relationships) are shrinking.”
• “My calendar is full, but I feel fragmented.”

When a goal isn’t integrated, it becomes a weight on one side of the scale, throwing your entire life off balance.

🔍 Signs Your Goal Is Integrated

• You don’t have to abandon your values to keep moving forward
• Your energy dips are respected, not punished
• Your family, health, and inner world aren't collateral damage
• You have pockets of recovery built into your process
• You don’t feel like you’re living a double life (performing vs. being)

⚠ Signs Your Goal Is Forcing Fragmentation

• You're constantly shifting identities to “fit” the goal
• You're succeeding professionally but hiding emotional pain
• You fantasize about escape or pause more than you enjoy the process
• You're often thinking “After this is over, then I’ll fix the rest”

🧭 The Integration Question

“Can I carry this goal into my real life — or am I building it in a vacuum?”

Integrated goals are messy but real. They move forward in small, consistent ways that honor the whole you — not just the performer in you.

✨ Final Thought

Alignment makes a goal feel right.
Lightness makes it feel doable.
Integration makes it sustainable.

A truly ALIVE goal isn’t just a dream — it’s a dream that fits into your days, your breath, and your relationships.

Because you’re not just chasing success. You’re building a life you can stay in — not one you have to escape from.